Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions: Communicating with Those we are with vs. Those not Physically Present, Part IV

July 24th, 2014

sayingHere‘s the final summary of responses I received about texting during a workshop. Some of them raised more questions for me like “Is it really less important to communicate with those we are with than with those not physically present?”

    • Pretend people are using their electronic device to take notes or tweet what a terrific presenter you are.

    • Generational communication differences will continue to evolve with smartphones and electronic devices connecting people to their busy lives. This phenomenon will only become more common. (I do not believe this gives anyone a reason to be discourteous and disrespectful to the presenter. Perhaps, these people are too busy to attend workshops? Are people any busier than they were 10 years ago? Are we as vital as we think we are?

    • It is a generation thing. It’s now okay to talk during a presentation or program. And let’s not get started on writing, spelling, math skills … ! (Sounds as if you may not think it is necessarily for the best.)

    • It’s the people who are not paying attention who lose the most.

I chose to stop my presentation momentarily and ask the participants to please refrain from using their electronic devices during the rest of the program, which they did. One of the people sat stoically until the end. Another came up and shared how very much he enjoyed the presentation and how much he had learned.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - Your Suggestions About Texting during a Workshop, Part III

July 20th, 2014

… more responses to my question about what you would do if someone was texting during you presentation.

    • I might use a nonverbal response such as continuing to talk as I walk over to the ones doing it. I’d look down at what they’re doing without saying anything, note their reaction and then move on.
    • I start with a high-energy opening that grabs attention and has lots of humor. Usually, it grabs their attention from the get-go. If I am later faced with a situation such as texting, I can jump on it, again using humor that generally gets a laugh even from the perpetrators. Nobody is likely to repeat their actions. Caveat … it has to fit naturally with your presenting style.
    • I might walk over and ask if they have their phones ready for our very own selfie. I have to admit I have yet to try this approach!
    • Since I speak on productivity, I have used experiences such as this to highlight that multitasking generally is not effective.
    • Have you tried acknowledging their behavior by giving them a 5-minute break to check emails while sharing you would then like their full attention? This may not be feasible in a 30-45 minute program.

I’ll wrap it up in my next blog.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - Your Suggestions about Texting during a Workshop, Part II

July 13th, 2014

Thanks to all of you who responded to my question about what you would have done as a presenter if someone was texting during your workshop. I’ll be sharing the responses in several blogs since I keep them to about a minute each for a quick, easy and helpful read.

Here we go!

    • Many of us are guilty of texting almost everywhere … it’s very rude and disruptive to the speaker. I promise to be on my good behavior from now on. Let’s hope others do, too, so we can get the most out of every networking event.
    • Did the facilitator remind everyone to put away their smart phones? (No. And I chose to start with an interactive exercise rather than having my first words be a “command.”)
    • I would probably include this behavior in future presentations on networking with the learning objective of being present in the moment. (Good idea!)
    • Very occasionally, I address this issue in the adult classroom as a university instructor. The syllabus says that phones must be muted. (Unfortunately, workshops usually don’t have syllabi. They do have facilitators or people who introduce us.)
    • I’ve read about a K-12 teacher who has the pupils put their cellphones across the bottom few inches of the whiteboard (space reserved for markers and erasers) with their names above the phones.

More varied opinions next time, plus what I did.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions: Texting During a Workshop (a small workshop!), Part I

June 24th, 2014

During a recent face-to-face networking presentation, I was surprised to see two people blatantly texting. Attendance was around 20 so it was easy to make eye contact and observe what people were doing.

My questions are:

    • What would you have done as the presenter?
    • Is each of us so important that we need to be available 24/7 even when it means tuning out the presenter whom, by attending her/his workshop, we have given permission to speak with us?
    • Are courtesy and respect for someone who is speaking outdated, and by this question I include smaller, interactive conversations as well?
    • Why do we place more emphasis on communicating with people other than those we are with?

You can respond to this blog or to me personally at lillianspeaks@duoforce.com. I’d like to hear from you so I can share your thoughts (anonymously, of course) and communicate what I did.

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Face-to- face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - Divide and Conquer for Better Networking Results, Part II

June 18th, 2014

business team“Divide and conquer” is a successful team approach to face-to-face networking when several employees from the same company or association are attending the same meeting, trade show or conference.

    Why use this approach? It’s the number one way to increase value for your time and dollar. You/your employer pay for multiple people to attend external events to build more relationships and increase your exposure … not to talk with each other. Instruct your people to sit at different tables, talk to “strangers” and save the water cooler talk for the office.

    Use the tag team approach. If two of you happen to be speaking with the same person, use the opportunity to say positive things about your cohort that s/he may not be comfortable saying. One of you can also choose to move on to speak with others since you are leaving a team member behind.

    Here’s another use. In addition to standard networking events, use this approach when numerous company employees attend the same trade show. As the owner or supervisor, review the program ahead of time and assign booths and presentations to various people. (No one person can successfully visit 500 booths or attend 15 presentations!) Then make your employees accountable at a debriefing you schedule shortly after the event. It’s amazing how much information and how many contacts your company can amass from one show.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - Divide and Conquer for Better Networking Results, Part I

June 5th, 2014

business team“Divide and conquer” is a successful team approach to face-to-face networking when your goal is “all for one and one for all.”

We used it years ago when I was in public relations for AT&T, and several of us might be attending the same dinner meeting or conference.

We might arrive together; however, we would then split up and reconvene on the way home or back in the office. We touched bases in aggregate with far more people than each of us could ever have successfully connected with solo. Plus our confabs gave us the opportunity to review networking outcomes.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll examine this method in more depth so that hopefully you, too, can benefit from it.

In the interim, if you want to brush up on your face-to-face networking skills, read Breakthrough Networking: Building Relationships That Last.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - More about Social Capital

May 27th, 2014

Door KnobBuilding social capital, your network of knob turners, is just as important to your business success as is financial capital. In fact, it is one of the most effective ways to earn more money, create more sales and benefit your career … especially if you weren’t born with a silver spoon.

You invest money and wait and hope for financial gains. Building social capital is about investing mostly time to gain more contacts to build a different kind of wealth: relationships. You have more control over the gains because you can choose your time and place and govern the results.

Networking is the number one way to start and build relationships, and face-to-face is still the prime way to kick off the process. Vital to the latter process are excellent verbal and nonverbal communication skills. Being able to articulate well and read people so you know what they are really saying are key ingredients in the relationship/social capital building process.

It’s good business to review your social capital monthly along with your financials. Make sure you are investing wisely in both areas and making the gains you desire.

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Face-to-face Networking: 60-second Solutions – - What is Social Capital?

May 15th, 2014

Much has been written and said about social capital. Some of it is esoteric and even obscure. According to Wikipedia, it “is the expected collective or economic benefits derived from the preferential treatment and cooperation between individuals and groups.” I agree yet that’s not verbiage for my workshops and seminars. It doesn’t role off my tongue easily so I am guessing it is as difficult or even more so for my audiences to process in real time.

Door KnobThat’s why I created a simple, yet potent and relevant definition. “Social capital is your network of knob turners” … those people who can open doors for you. And who among us doesn’t want more people to open doors?

Who you know is more important than advanced degrees when you’re trying to get an important meeting or interview with someone you don’t know. That’s when you want to turn to that network of knob turners. Once inside the door you can use your knowledge and advanced degrees to get the business or the job.

More about social capital next week!

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Connect Offline Conversations Online and Vice Versa Says Upcoming Greater Chicago Networking Extravaganza Panelist

April 24th, 2014

mike bio pic infal“Online tools and channels provide communication vehicles to accelerate and shorten the relationship cycle in advance of meeting in real time,” said Mike Dwyer, director of talent acquisition and engagement at viaForencsics, a mobile security firm, and panelist at the April 30 Greater Chicago Networking Extravaganza (GCNE).

The 12th GCNE will be held from 5:30 – 8:45 pm April 30 at the Metropolitan Club, Chicago and will feature the “Complete Networking Experience” combining the benefits of face-to-face and online tools and techniques.

“I started my career as a recruiter in a time when the Internet was still in its infancy and cold calling prospects and talent was the primary way to build your business,” Dwyer said. “When I joined LinkedIn in September of 2005, I was thrilled to learn there could potentially be a way to engage with prospects beyond the cold call. As LinkedIn reached critical mass and became my CRM, Content sharing platform and engagement tool, I found another way to enhance and start relationships.

“Online engagement isn’t meant to “replace” offline. It’s meant to enhance and amplify those meetings and conversations,” Dwyer added.

Dwyer will share examples of how he successfully expanded his business and network through the merging of on and offline engagement.

Joining Dwyer on the panel with more helpful insights for your business and career are Bethany Hartley, director of marketing for Chicago’s Women’s Business Development Center, which has helped more than 70,000 women in the last 28 years, and Greg Wittstock, founder and CEO of Aquascape, the leading innovator in the water gardening market. Moderator will be Jim Treleaven, Ph.D., a multi-time CEO, an advisor to CEOs and adjunct facility member.

The “Complete Networking Experience” will also feature the merits of face-to-face networking by co-producer and nationally renowned speaker and author Lillian Bjorseth. Co-producer and master connector Jason Jacobsohn will pull together the values and benefits of both kinds of networking

Wednesday, April 30, 2014
5:30 pm – 8:45 pm
The Metropolitan Club, 233 S. Wacker, 67th Floor, Oak Room, Chicago
Cost: $60 pre-registration; $70 at the door
5:30 – 6:30 pm — Open Networking (Complimentary light buffet & cash bar)
6:30 – 8:15 pm — Program
8:15 – 8:45 pm — Open Networking
RSVP – www.greaterchicagonetworking.com

Contact Bjorseth at lillianspeaks@duoforce.com or Jacobsohn at jason@jacobsohn.com if you have questions or would like to sponsor this one-of-a-kind event.

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Upcoming Greater Chicago Networking Extravaganza Panelist to Discuss How to Stay in Contact with Clients Using Social Media

April 21st, 2014

Bethany Hartley“Online networking tools are more than just lead-generating devices,” said Bethany Hartley, director of marketing for Chicago’s Women’s Business Development Center, which has helped more than 70,000 women in the last 28 years. “Being able to answer and send quick messages to current clients lets them know you’re thinking about them and they/their projects are top-of- mind. That’s imperative in this social media age. If it’s difficult to connect, they’ll give up.” Hartley said.

Hartley will discuss how to connect with clients via LinkedIn, Facebook, Google Hangouts, Email, Lync and other social media platforms.

Joining Hartley on the April 30 Greater Chicago Networking Extravaganza panel with more helpful insights for your business and career are Mike Dwyer, director of talent acquisition and engagement at viaForencsics, who leverages online tools to build relationships and find clients, and Greg Wittstock, founder and CEO of Aquascape, the leading innovator in the water gardening market. Moderator will be Jim Treleaven, Ph.D., a multi-time CEO, an advisor to CEOs and adjunct facility member.

The “Complete Networking Experience” will also feature the merits of face-to-face networking by co-producer and nationally renowned speaker and author Lillian Bjorseth. Co-producer and master connector Jason Jacobsohn will pull together the values and benefits of both kinds of networking

Wednesday, April 30, 2014
5:30 pm – 8:45 pm
The Metropolitan Club, 233 S. Wacker, 67th Floor, Oak Room, Chicago
Cost: $60 pre-registration; $70 at the door
5:30 – 6:30 pm — Open Networking (Complimentary light buffet & cash bar)
6:30 – 8:15 pm — Program
8:15 – 8:45 pm — Open Networking
RSVP – www.greaterchicagonetworking.com

Contact Bjorseth at lillianspeaks@duoforce.com or Jacobsohn at jason@jacobsohn.com if you have questions or would like to sponsor this one-of-a-kind event.

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